PLEASE HELP - WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS POOR GIRL!?

She clearly needs some professional help. She's been through some serious tragedies, and somehow convinced herself that she deserves it. It's sad, but it happens to some people. She needs some counseling at the very least. The first step is to find a survivors support group in your area and get her into it. This may be difficult, because she probably feels like she doesn't deserve the help. If you can't get her to go, at least try speaking yourself with some survivor counselors, and they can give you some advice on how to proceed. I sincerely hope this poor woman can get the help she needs to heal. My heart goes out to both of you.